FAQ’s

What is the original design of sexuality and sexual intimacy?

We have a Biblical worldview of sexuality and sexual intimacy. God created us and has created this important part of the human experience to represent, here on earth, the holy covenant and intimacy God desires with every person.

We believe that sexual intimacy between a man and a woman belongs in marriage. We believe that marriage between a man and a woman is the original design of what our creator intended and that anything outside of these physical boundaries is a sin against our holy God.

We believe that holy marriage should be honored by all and that lust should not be entertained by those in pursuit of righteousness. We find, through Biblical precepts and scientific research, that prostitution, pornography, anal sex, use of sex toys, oral sex and even masturbation are not healthy or holy sexual practices.

 

Sexual brokenness is an intimacy issue and affects our intimacy with God. This is why the Body of Christ can no longer be silent about sexual brokenness and why we are passionate about helping our brothers and sisters in Christ.

We believe that a follower of Jesus Christ can solely find their identity in God. A person’s identity is not found in their sexual behavior; what we do does not define who we are. What we do is just a manifestation of who we belong to and who we worship. Sexuality and spirituality cannot be separated. A Sexual choice is a spiritual choice and has spiritual consequences therefore we acknowledge that Jesus Christ is the only way, the truth and the life – there is no healing to be found without Him.

Our main mission is to expose the lies of pornography, empower believers to live out sexual integrity, bring healing to the broken hearted and hope to the Body of Christ.

Psalm 119 / Romans 1:18-32 / Galatians 5:16-21 / Ephesians 5:3-5 / 2 Timothy 2:4 / 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8 / Romans 8:5 / James 4:4 / 1 Corinthians 6:12-20

How do we talk to kids and teens about sexual intimacy?

Reading the Bible with our children will establish a firm foundation of truth in their lives. With that foundation, we can have confidence in every conversation that takes place. We should begin our conversations with our children about sexual health and biblical sexual intimacy as early as possible. It should be a lifelong conversation, just like chats about good manners. We do not chat to our children about having good manners once and then never again; it is an ongoing conversation. It is the same regarding Biblical sexual intimacy and sexual health. True education needs repetition. Neuroscience says we need to hear something many times to truly learn it. The Bible warns us time and time again about sexual immorality and how it can corrupt the human heart. Let us be sure to warn our children too.

Hebrews 4:12 / Psalm 119:11

How will education stop Sexual Exploitation?

Our focus is to decrease the demand so that the supply can decrease. We know that sex trafficking, abuse and addiction are increasing. We are shocked by how many people are forced into sexual slavery but we need to ask ourselves a question; WHO is buying into this and keeping it alive and kicking? What kind of society is breeding a culture that promotes sex as a commodity?

We are confronting the root cause for this massive scourge of sexual exploitation in our communities.

We know that sex trafficking is the main business in the illegal trade of human beings. If we can educate and empower people to pursue purity and true love; the chances of them exploiting others will be minimized. There are many organizations that are rescuing victims and doing prevention work with potential victims, there are also many who are working in government to put laws and legislations in place to protect society as a whole. Our main focus is the common man and woman on the street that are buying into this trade and feeding a monster that can only be satisfied by capturing more slaves and exploiting the vulnerable in our world. Civil society is where the problem lies and, where we believe; the solution can be found.

“Pornography is most often the root cause of sexual exploitation; so at the moment, that is our main focus. We feel an urgency to spread the true facts on this public health crisis.”   

Did you know that pornography is purely a business to those who produce it and distribute it?

This is a BILLION DOLLAR industry with enough money and power to influence government, media and culture. They have enough money to hire top marketing and IT specialists. They also, like any money making monster, do not have an ethical code or set of morals. Young children are targeted, just as the Tobacco industry did, as they have a vulnerability to addiction that adults do not. Once young people are addicted, they have a ‘client’ for life.

“We operate just like any Fortune 500 company.” Says Andrew Edmond (CEO of a Porn Internet Business). It is essentially a Production & Distribution Business

INTERESTING FACT: the ‘paid for’ sites OWN many of the ‘free’ porn sites. (Good Marketing Strategy)

Did you know that the porn culture feeds rape culture?

If the food industry effects what we eat and the fashion industry effects what we wear, surely the pornography industry will affect the sexual preferences of society?

It has been said that “Porn is the theory, Rape is the action.” (anonymous)

NO INTIMATE COMMUNICATION

88% of Pornography showcases aggression towards women.” – GAIL DINES, PhD. (culture reframed)

Did you know porn is addictive?

How is PORN like a drug?

Pornographic images enter through your eyes and trigger a release of chemicals into the reward pathway. Chemicals such a dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin. The flooding of chemicals overloads the receptors in the brain to the point where the brain literally starts to rewire itself. Overtime, you build up a dependency to that release, just like you would to other drugs.

 

“Addiction represents a pathological, yet powerful, form of learning and memory.” Given what we now know about how learning changes the brain, would we expect to see physical changes in the brain in addiction? We would and we do. Virtually every study looking at addiction has shown shrinkage and abnormality in the reward areas and in judgment centers. These include addictions to drugs, food, sex, pornography and the internet.” – DONALD J. HILTON, MD, Neurosurgeon.

 

“They also found that porn addicts demonstrate a wanting/liking split, where the addict craves the drug or behavior of choice, but does not even like it anymore. This is a hallmark of addiction.”

 

“If we add what we know about the development of the pre-frontal cortex with brain immaturity, the reality of mirror neuron research, we are plunging children into a quicksand of potential sexual dysfunction. Mirror neurons cause us to believe that we are experiencing what we see.” – SHARON COOPER, MD.

Did you know that porn addiction can cause erectile disfunction?

People who watch pornography develop two sexual pathways:
real sex and porn sex; the more visited pathway, the stronger the path: Leading to function or dysfunction.

Porn induced erectile dysfunction happens when pornography is the main sexual pathway. Real sex becomes obsolete and climax is only possible with pornography.

INTERESTING FACT: The FBI has found the most common interest amoungst serial killers and rapists is Pornography.

How far is too far?

I suppose the real question should be; “How close can we get to the King of Kings?” We live in a world where personal pleasure is an idol, where culture pressures us every day to pursue our sinful desires. We know that desire gives birth to sin and sin gives birth to death. When we give our lives to Christ, we surrender our hearts to Him. Purity is a state of ones heart and the state of our heart will determine our choices. So in all due diligence, our responsibility is really to guard our hearts and minds from impurity so that we can pursue purity.

James 1:15 / Jeremiah 17:9-10 / Matthew 12: 33-37

Is masturbation okay?

No, because masturbation can be addictive and is rooted in lust. Lust is the opposite of Love. Lust can never be satisfied; it promises you everything and leaves you with nothing. It breaks down self control. Masturbation can also negatively effect your body and your mind; it can lead to sexual dysfunction, depression, addiction and the pursuit of harmful sexual activities. i.e.: viewing pornography and promiscuity.

1 Thessalonians 4:4

Are all sexual acts permissible in marriage?

Love is satisfied and it is content, lust is unsatisfied and remains unsatisfied. Lust is never content and is always pursuing novelty and variety. The Bible warns christians about lust and if we are serious about following a holy God, then we literally need to flee from it – even in marriage. The Lord warns us in the Bible not to pursue the sexual acts that the unbelievers of that time were practicing and He is saying the same thing today. As followers of Jesus Christ; we should live lives that are different – in every way!

As we cultivate a reverence for the Lord – for the fear of the Lord is the beginning of all wisdom – we will bear much fruit and blessing in our marriages.

Hebrews 13:4 / Proverbs 9:10

I have been sexually abused, is there hope for me?

Yes! Jesus Christ created your innermost being (where sexual brokenness resides) and He is the only one who can heal you in that deep place.

Pray today and ask Him to heal you:

Lord Jesus, please come into my life and my heart.

Please forgive me of my sins and wash me clean of the sins that others have placed on me. Help me to forgive those who have hurt me and release the pain in my heart.

Please heal me and restore me.

Amen

He is the hope of the world and the light in our lives that shines into dark places and makes our ashes in something beautiful.

Luke 5:17

Isaiah 57:18-19

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