Sixty years ago, parents (for the most part) had the challenge to keep children physically safe. The televisions, newspapers, magazines, phones and even the early computers were limited in who you could contact and even when you could contact them. Never mind that public content was accountable to a high standard of morality… And we must not forget that most mothers had the privilege to be at home with their small children and had ample time to teach them the values, skills and the respect that they needed to cultivate healthy and safe social boundaries.

Today everything has changed. Child protection has changed.

Things have changed so radically and this is sad, but it would be even sadder if we were to continue as though nothing has changed.” (excerpt from ‘Parents in pursuit of purity’)

As we enjoy the benefits of better technology, there will always be those in the dark who will use the same technology for their own selfish, and often evil, intentions and actions.
Through the internet, children have access to every kind of image, sound and ideology that exists. The love of money has pushed an entire generation to uplift material possessions before spiritual, sexual and social health. The responsibility that parents have to protect their children has increased as threats have increased; there is now a desperate need to physically, sexually and mentally protect children. We find ourselves in the middle of a social and sexual revolution, and the threats seem to be mounting up.

As Christians, there should be great alarm bells going off in our communities, as the next generation is plummeting into a social experiment. Unfortunately, for the most part, silence seems to be the name of the game around these pertinent issues. This silence is pushing our young people out to the wolves; because the ‘wolves’ talk about it! There is no doubt in my mind that our young people, rich or poor, are being oppressed by the forces of darkness that violate them via the internet.

We need to be sensitive to what cannot be seen with our eyes: the things happening in the spiritual realm. We know that there is more than one death, while the world around us is focused on physical death – we should not forget about spiritual death. I once heard a pornographer say: “Nobody has ever died from an overdose of pornography.” He was of course referring to physical death…” (excerpt from ‘Parents in pursuit of purity’)

A private faith that does not act in the face of oppression is no faith at all.” William Wilberforce. What can parents do?

I am reminded of Billy Grahams words: “They are talking about it (sex) in homes, in schools, in magazines, in the news… so why do we not talk about it from the pulpit?
(YouTube: Billy Graham – Sex & the Bible)

We need to talk. 

We need to talk to our children the God who created sexual intimacy and why He created it. We need to promote biblical sexuality – which highly values intimacy, identity and the human body. By no means should we, as Christians, be deceived – secular sexuality and biblical sexuality very different. The one is in pursuit of pleasure and self, while the other is in pursuit of purity and a Holy God. I pray the Body of Christ acknowledges this and starts to declare truth into this area.

I have had the privilege to research sexology and the root causes of sexual exploitation, abuse and addiction – but my greatest privilege has been to study the topic of sexuality and sexual intimacy in the Word of God!

It has become very clear that pornography not only puts men, women and children at risk of being violated in their innermost being – it also directly opposes the Gospel of Jesus Christ. Let me explain; we were created to worship God, our heavenly Father. Pornography pulls that focus away and seduces mankind to worship mankind, leading to idolatry. This is very serious.

Parents have the opportunity, privilege and authority to speak into their children’s lives like no other person can. Guardians play a vital role in establishing belief systems, habits and ultimately values into a young person’s life. Children only fully develop the reasoning centre of their brain by the age of 25, so yes, they need help!


God knows that to change a person’s behavior, it starts with changing the mind first. The enemy also knows this and he is using pornography to drive an entire generation to lose themselves in the pursuit of pleasure.

Romans 12:2 (ESV) reminds us:
Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.

Nearly 9 out of 10 self-proclaimed single Christians are, in practice, SEXUAL ATHEISTS. In other words, God has nothing to say to them on that subject of any consequence or, at least, anything meaningful enough to dissuade them from following their own course of conduct. It is the ultimate oxymoron. A person who believes in a wise, sovereign and loving God who created them and all things, can also believe simultaneously He should not, cannot or will not inform their thinking or living sexually… There is a disconnect between identity and activity.” Kenny Luck

Along this journey it has become very clear to me that God is after our hearts – before anything else. When our hearts are changed, our lives are changed. He is the only perfect father and He has given us guidelines to live by. The original design of God is this: that one man and one woman come together in a covenant agreement called marriage. Anything outside of these physical and spiritual boundaries, which God clearly denies in the Bible and Creation, is not part of His original design. We were created to live for Him, not to please ourselves. We were designed to worship Him, not each other.” 

(excerpt from ‘Parents in pursuit of purity’)

The only hope our children have is in Jesus Christ. He is the way, the truth and the life.
Our role, as parents, is to cultivate Jesus in our homes – the first way we can do this is to be honest. Be honest enough to prepare and protect your children… Then pray, with all your heart, that they will follow Jesus completely, absolutely and always.

Chantelle Blokdyk
Author of ‘Parents in pursuit of purity – a biblical perspective on sexuality and pornography’